The mystery of why women have sex, and what they want out of it, has long been an elusive study—something even Sigmund Freud called “the great question.” Researchers have historically theorized that women’s motives lie in love and commitment, while newer studies have shown they do it for pleasure, just like men. But women are complicated creatures: their sexual health is determined as much by their emotions as by their physical state, which might help explain why as many as 50 percent of women have trouble getting aroused. Yet while scientists, in recent years, have labored over the “how” of female desire, no major study, until now, has actually asked women to describe why they have sex in the first place.
In their new book, Why Women Have Sex,University of Texas psychologists Cindy Meston and David Buss aim to illuminate the complexities of women’s sexual motivations through women’s own words—an important step, they say, to better understanding how women can achieve sexual satisfaction. Based on five years of research and an online survey of 1,000 women, the authors consider motivation ranging from altruistic sex (“I felt sorry for the guy”) to revengeful sex (“I wanted to get back at my partner”) to palliative sex (“I had a migraine”). We hear from women who’ve had sex to boost their confidence, even if it’s with a man (or woman) they find repulsive, and from those who’ve used sex to barter for gifts or household chores (9 percent of us have used this form of economic sex, according to a University of Michigan study). We learn that 31 percent of women have had sex to evoke jealousy in the ones they love, while others have done it to protect themselves from getting hurt. Some, like the 25-year-old woman we described earlier, have had sex to boost their self-esteem, and 84 percent of women report they’ve done it simply to “keep the peace” at home. “I think the stereotype tends to be that women have sex for love and men have sex for pleasure,” says Meston, director of the Sexual Psychophysiology Lab at UT Austin. “But in reality, women’s sexual motivations are vastly complex.”
what sort of outfit should one wear with bold floral leggings?
a bold pattern is best combined with something solid. since they’re leggings, the best thing to wear them with for the fall would be a simple knit dress and a pair of tall boots. i’ve found the most knit dresses in the world for the lowest prices ever can be found online or in the store at forever 21. (this dress shows how you can add elements that are interesting, like the white cowl-neck top, that can make it interesting without being too much with the leggings).
motorcycle boots. other than jeans, what else can you wear them with?
motorcycle boots are actually a lot more versatile than you think. for example, they can be paired with a dress and leggings or tights (like in the previous post). additionally, they can be worn with a pair of skinny cut pair of slacks and a loose fitting top or long cardigan. my friend morgan wears her boots with her american apparel fine jersey drape skirts and a fun top and snazzy jewelry.
when you take pictures you put — what i assume are — abbreviations in the description. what do they mean? did i miss something? i’m confused and so badly wish to understand!
dpoym – drunk picture of yourself Monday on tuesdays, i celebrate “gratuitous picture of brad goreski tuesday” gpoyw – gratuitous picture of yourself wednesday snpd – semi-nude picture day
“I know exactly how that is. To love somebody who doesn’t deserve it, because they are all you have… because any attention is better than no attention.”—Augusten Burroughs (via quotewhore) (via allisonrae)
“What I want is to be needed. What I need is to be indispensable to somebody. Who I need is somebody that will eat up all my free time, my ego, my attention. Somebody addicted to me. A mutual addiction.”—Chuck Palahniuk (via quotewhore) (via allisonrae) (via piecesofserenity)
this week, i focused on what i feel like i do best some days - procrastinate. but hey, a little bit isn’t bad, right? making time for procrastination…
There is a blue French horn, a mysterious pineapple and a series of failed relationships. These are just a few things that you’ll find in the first season of the show “How I Met Your Mother.” In a feeble attempt to procrastinate and relax in the past couple days I have become completely engulfed in this show, which is not new to the primetime scene, but certainly new to my life.
Fortunately, my roommate currently owns three seasons of the show on DVD (with the fourth season on the way). This allows me to watch them at my pace: about five episodes at a time. Unfortunately, this puts a stop to my super productive can-do attitude.
I’ve come to realize that as I’ve progressed and matured through college, I’ve developed a more sensible idea of what needs to be done and when. And when you’re involved in many activities, time management is chief among the skills you must master. However, throughout the years, there’s always been procrastination.
My procrastination began freshman year with, as expected, the creation of a Facebook account. I always kept Facebook open on my browser, refreshing my homepage before there was a newsfeed - before there were parents— on the social networking site.
However with a shift in Facebook’s amenities and crowd, I noticed a shift in my procrastination tastes.
I’ve also struggled with an amateur career in blogging, posting things I find amusing or things that peak my interest. This, along with keeping up with the blogs I like following, has certainly kept me busy and away from homework, studying and papers.
With the fourth week of school into full swing, we’re almost a third of the way through the semester. The honeymoon period of the semester is over and now we’re trading in our late night chats and roommate bonding for highlighters and flashcards.
At the Mount, the semester is commonly broken down into two exams and a final. Advantageously, this means that the idea of a cumulative final is usually eradicated. On the flip side, it means that a lot of exams fall within the same two weeks. Add in some papers, your regular reading and work load, and it’s almost too much to bear.
But through it all, you have to listen to that voice in the back alleys of your brain screaming, “you’ll get through it,” because you will. And when you’ve taken the advice of that devil on your shoulder telling you that forty-nine games of Tetris is perfectly acceptable, recognize that it’s time to acknowledge the angel on the other shoulder telling you to get back to work.
Procrastination isn’t always bad for you. Like many other things in life that should be kept in moderation like alcohol, chocolate, and nasal sprays, it can help you relax. Just don’t get so caught up that you lose sight of success in a trade off for “one more photo album.”